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Breathe.

Sometimes you need a little fire under your britches to get you moving. My husband and I haven’t been away overnight together since our oldest was born—fourteen years ago! The fire that got us away from home was an invitation to a destination wedding in California.

I was both excited and nervous at the thought of being away, and it was hard for me to ask for help. At one point I panicked and wrote to a friend: “It’s kind of crazy to be leaving 6 kids with a girl who doesn’t have any children. What kind of friend am I?!” The email I got in reply was: “Take a deep breath. The trip will be fine. Really. Your friend will survive and you’ll have a wonderful time.”

It was wonderful.

The wedding was beautiful, and the ceremony and vows were touching. For me, the most memorable part was giving the blessing. The wedding party circled the bride and groom and everyone said one line of the blessing. We witnessed their commitment, but also promised support on the journey. Beautiful.

I’m so thankful for how everything worked out. Even though we haven’t travelled in decades, the flights, hotels, tours, rental car and wedding all fell into place. But I’m even more thankful to the beautiful people who watched our children and drove them around as well as the friends and family we reconnected with at the wedding.

I’m also deeply grateful for my children.

Yes, I cried as we drove away from the house—and my children. And I was overwhelmed with emotion as I talked to my two year old on the phone a couple of days later. I was the proud mama that probably drove everyone nuts with stories of my kids.

Can you imagine my joy when we discovered little love notes from the children hidden in our luggage? There were heart shaped cards tucked in our Bibles, or a note would pop out when I reached into my purse or unzipped my suitcase. I was touched that they planned this out to show us love throughout the trip. We even found a well-hidden note today—almost two weeks after getting home!

What I will remember most from this trip was the love that we received.

Have a wonderful week!

Love,

Rachel

 

P.S. ~ I’m excited to share a guest post with you by my dear friend Miriam—the girl who survived watching my children for four days! Look for her post on Thursday.

The bride and groom

The bride and groom

 

The wedding reception

The wedding reception

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In Sonoma

Kevin at Muir Woods

Kevin at Muir Woods

The Golden Gate Bridge

The Golden Gate Bridge

San Francisco

San Francisco

On our way to Alcatraz

On our way to Alcatraz

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Some of the notes and cards we found

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iStock_000011314964SmallI had no idea mosquitoes could be this prolific. Now that I live in northern B.C., spring has become synonymous with “mosquito season.” My children look like they have chicken pox, and I hide indoors unless I am running fast enough to stay ahead of the blood-thirsty horde. Yes, it really is that bad.

My husband and I have different approaches when it comes to dealing with mosquitoes in the night. First, I will try hiding under my pillow, and if that doesn’t work I expose my face to the mosquitoes and wait until I feel the stinging of their proboscis and slap myself—hard.

Kevin lies awake scanning the room with a flashlight. He will jump up and go mosquito hunting when he is sufficiently tormented by their high-pitched whine. I think that I am kept awake more by the guy with the flashlight than the mosquitoes.

I know he’s wishing I’d get up and hunt those mosquitoes with him so he can go to sleep in peace, and I’m wishing he’d just stick his head under the pillow and stop flashing that light in my face.

This is just one tiny glimpse of the common frustrations that come up in marriage. It’s not that one way in necessarily better than the other. They’re just different, and sometimes our differences clash. This is where a sense of humour comes in handy! And the humility to accept those differences as part of God’s great plan can give us the grace to face the day with a smile.

Still, I’m going to hang the mosquito netting over the bed and hope for more than four hours of sleep tonight! 🙂

 

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Better Together

Have you noticed that some things are inexplicably better together? Take tartar sauce for example; it’s just relish and mayo. I don’t like relish, and I could take or leave mayonnaise, but together—their amazing. Isn’t marriage like that?

wedding smIf my husband has a tendency towards grumpiness ;), it has been a mirror to show me my own irritableness and has motivated me to choose joy more and more often.

I didn’t realize that I had a stingy nature until my husband wanted to give away some of our trees to a neighbour. “But we could sell them!” I resisted. I have learned to bend and go with him when God places on him the desire to pass something on. It is through Kevin’s generosity that I have learned the joy of giving.

Sometimes I’m amazed at how difficult marriage is, but I now see that it is so often the refining fire that God uses to make me more like Him. Cherish the differences; they’re there for a reason.

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